FOR HARMONY IN YOUR HEART AND YOUR HOME
THE LOVE CLINIC
The Love Clinic seeks to be a centre of excellence for relationships, with a heart of TLC.
It is a passion driven company that believes in the power of love to heal the world, one heart at a time. Feeling loved, and being free to love, is vital to your personal wellbeing, and that of your home and your community. So The Love Clinic is here to help you restore, revive and renew the experience and expression of love in your heart.
I am Andrea Tibbitts, the founder of The Love Clinic, a relationship specialist, a Couple, Family and Individual Therapist, as well as a Love and Life Breakthrough Coach.
I am a simple romantic, and I want everyone to be as happy as they can be! So, the question is, 'How can you be happier?!'
The 75-year and 20-million dollar Grant Study (the longest longitudinal study of biosocial human development ever undertaken) points to a straightforward five-word conclusion:
“Happiness is love. Full stop.” George E. Vaillant, M.D., a Psychoanalyst, a research Psychiatrist, and Harvard Professor
I have made this vision my life’s work, and I would consider it a privilege to come alongside you as an individual, a couple or a family, at this moment in your lives on your love journey. My passion is to help you feel more healthily and securely connected, both within yourself and within your relationships, to feel more loved and to be more loving, and ultimately to experience greater happiness in your life.
My heart in recent years has found its therapeutic home in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the kindest and most empathic, compassionate way of working, with a proven history of success. (This is not to be confused with the Emotional Freedom Technique)! Its gentle focus is not on blame, but on powerfully facilitating each individual to become the best, and, most fulfilled, version of themselves. Being empowered to feel loved and give love is the way to greater happiness, and the greatest antidote to unhappiness.
Emotionally Focused Therapy is the only model of couple therapy internationally that is based on an empirically validated theory of adult love and emotional distress. With its base in attachment theory, it is also a perfect model to understand and heal your relationship with your family and with different parts of yourself.
For individuals the therapy can facilitate you to address and overcome unhealthy attachments in your life, whether they be your relationship to different parts of yourself, addictions, or destructive behaviours and patterns in relationships. I can empower you to discover new healthy strategies for your personal freedom and self-expression.
For couples it can offer a safe and affirming opportunity for healing where there has been a betrayal, or where there is persistent emotional distance or conflict. They can begin to identify where they get stuck, to practise strategies to divert their destructive cycles and to then experience new, deeper, and more satisfying, ways to connect with each other. This can then begin to create the revival of romance and the emergence of nurturing strategies for relational resilience going forward, or healthy ways to separate as a couple if necessary.
For families the therapy can focus on where there has been a disconnection and begin to facilitate healing. It seeks to establish healthy boundaries of kindness and respect, re-creating a sense of emotional safety for each to find their voice in the family dynamic, and a renewed feeling of togetherness.
I have sought to specialise in this modality because of its proven track record of success, and I have undergone intensive further training. I intend to apply for accreditation with the International Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy in 2020.
However, as well as being a qualified Counsellor, I have also trained as a Life Breakthrough Coach and a Marriage Breakthrough Coach. For some people the task and goal-oriented approach of coaching feels more comfortable as a way into deeper and more personal issues. The diversity of my training and experience enables me to work from an integrative base, drawing from Psychodynamic and Person-Centred Therapy, CBT and Coaching, according to your unique needs as an individual, as a couple or as a family. I seek to blend my counselling and coaching expertise and experience as I work with each unique individual, couple and family.
I offer a free 20-minute telephone consultation by appointment if you would like to find out more.
I trained 25 years ago as a Psychodynamic Counsellor, which took me into a 2-year internship in an Addiction Treatment Centre. This first sparked my interest in attachment, and how we can all have unhealthy attachments in our lives, getting stuck on our journey towards happy and healthy relationships. It also gave me an introduction to working with couples and families, as well as an insight into the power of psychoeducation.
This work continued in my role as Manager of an Addiction Treatment Programme at a Priory Hospital for 5 years. Whilst there, and subsequently, I have designed and delivered workshops for different target groups on relationships, recovery from addiction, self-esteem and various aspects of spirituality.
Passionate about facilitating the creation, and nurturing, of positive attachments, I was sponsored to attend fast-track training as a Relationship Counsellor with Marriage Care, a national relationship charity, 8 years ago. Since then I have continued to develop in this field, by focusing my professional training on Emotionally Focused Therapy. I have deepened my commitment to working with couples and families, with a focus on healing and strengthening relational bonds, as well as individuals relating in healthier ways to different parts of themselves.
I have helped both individuals and couples address a wide range of issues including: relationship breakdown, recovery from affairs, separation, relational boredom, loss of libido, domestic abuse, anger management, conflict resolution, addiction, depression, anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, perfectionism and differences in spiritual expression.
In recent years I have worked for Relate, as well as working as a relationship specialist in private practice, both in Surrey and in a Clinic in London.
CORE training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy - the required eligibility to apply for accreditation with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy - ICEEFT
Emotionally Focused Family Therapy Level 1 - ICEEFT
Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy - ICEEFT
Certified Marriage Breakthrough Coach - The Life Breakthrough Coaching Academy
Certified Life Breakthrough Coach - The Life Breakthrough Coaching Academy
Certificate in Relationship Counselling - Marriage Care
Diploma in Psychodynamic Counselling (Level 5) - Chichester Counselling Service
2 Year Internship in 12 Step Addiction Therapy - St Joseph’s Centre for Dependency
Certificate in Counselling Skills & Attitudes - Westminster Pastoral Foundation
Certificate in Counselling - Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education
In addition to the above I regularly attend a number of CPD training events each year.
MY PROFESSIONAL MEMBERSHIPS
I am an Accredited Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, and a Registered Member of the Association of Christian Counsellors, and I adhere to their Ethical Framework.
I am an approved member of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and I am listed on their international directory, as well as the on the equivalent directory of therapists for the British Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy.